As a blogger... No. As a human, I believe that you should talk about what you know and listen to others with more knowledge than you to learn about the things that you know little about. Quite frankly I know exceptionally little about marriage. Everything I have garnered on the subject comes from that of what I've learned from watching my parents, my sister, and my dear friends as they navigate through their own personal ups and downs of matrimony. I am about as far as far can get from an expert on the subject. I guess that would make me a novice. Or not even a novice. I'm more along the lines of a bystander, a witness, a cheerleader and encourager to my friends and loved ones who have made that lifelong commitment to another person.
Today, my parents celebrate 35 years of marriage. 35 years. That is a number I've been dwelling on all day and can hardly wrap my head around. I know it hasn't always been easy for the two them, but through good days and bad, sunshine and hurricanes (litereally hurricanes) I've watched in admiration as they stand by one another's side and journey through life together. And I realize that in this day and age they are the exception. And I am the exception for getting to witness and be raised by the two of them. It's something that with each passing year I realize more and more the profound impact their relationship with one another has had on me. And for that I am immensely thankful.
This morning I messaged both my dad and mom asking what advice they would give to folks hoping to one day be married as long as they have. My dad replied by saying:
Be friends first. Know when to keep your mouth shut and listen. Say what you really feel and keep trying new things. Good children help.
My mother's response echoed his reply:
Don't just listen to your loved one, really hear them. Compromise is a good thing. Making each other laugh is what makes you close and appreciate your best friend.
Now I'm in no place to even fathom marriage at the moment, but I do like to think that I will carry these tidbits of advice with me until a time comes that I can put them to use. Until then I will continue to applaud and admire my parents as they continue onward together.
An ever-changing journey. A lifelong commitment.
A feat I can only one day hope to aspire to.
Happy Anniversary, you two.
ps: My folks have expressed to me on multiple occasions their love for the song below. I'll take any excuse to share a song by Dave.